Family, Me, Ponderisms, Slumming

Single Mom For The Week…

…and I survived. I need a t-shirt now (?).

What once was super stressful for me to even consider 5 years ago, being a single mom for the week when my hubby went out of town for work wasn’t so bad as I thought it would be.

Perks:

  • I have older kids now, and the only thing I have to be concerned about is my little “three-nager”.
  • My babysitter for 10 years is heaven-sent, though she couldn’t watch the three-nager for 1 day.
  • Ability to work-from-home on the 1 day my babysitter isn’t available. (Thank you, boss!!)
  • Neighbors with same aged kids as mine who were willing to look after them today (no school due to Memorial Day weekend).

 

Though it wasn’t so bad, I just hope it will not be an everyday thing (*virtually glares at hubby who isn’t here yet till tonight*), but at least I’m happy to know that we can adjust when these things have to happen.

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Adventure!, Creating, Family, Me, News, Technology

So Far…

It’s been a busy couple of months, and the real busy stuff hasn’t even started yet. I’ve been learning a lot about SharePoint. My new teammate has given me a lot of good pointers. And would you believe she has the same birthday as I do? No wonder we get along so well. I’m so grateful I was involved in the hiring process, otherwise I wouldn’t know who I would be partnering with.

In the next three weeks, I will be in meetings all day, planning to get SharePoint implemented in our company. This will be my first time experiencing the pre-planning part of an application that is not live yet. I’m usually at the support end of the application to help the end users, but never at the beginning of a project. This will certainly be an adventure!

In other news, the kids had an easy transition of going back to school. Since I have been getting them to go to sleep early and wake up early during the summer, they didn’t have any trouble. It’s because of my new hours and also the kids had day summer camps all summer. I was happy to learn both L1 and L2 are in GT (Gifted and Talented) classes this year. Yay! I got smart kids. Hope they can keep it up!

This upcoming Labor Day holiday will be the first in a long time I will experience being off on an actual federal holiday. I’m usually working on the holidays when it’s my work schedule. The only downside is that hubby will probably be working that day. Ah well, at least I’ll get to spend time with the kiddos.

That’s it for now. Usually at this time of the day, I am a zombie. Toodles!

Baby, Family, Me, News, Posterous

Some Random News

So here’s what’s been happening so far and things to come:

  • Already going into my 36 weeks of pregnancy on Friday, which means I have at least 2 weeks (given my record) OR 4 weeks left till Leslie Samantha comes! The girls are very excited (and, of course, Luci). They have built the crib and all and we are still wondering where I will “nest” after birth. I used to nest in the girls’ room but then that’s their room now, so I suggested our big living room. We have an extra mattress I can use with Sammy (I think that’s what her nickname will be).
  • Other pregnancy news, the belly is growing more and more. You wouldn’t have noticed I was preggers a month ago, but it is truly noticeable now. Also will have to watch what I eat more carefully now because of the diabetes and HBP. I’m starting to see some swelling feet, which isn’t good. I usually have a good record in not having it. So I have to watch myself.
  • Dani is having a school field trip to the Fort Worth Zoo in about 2 weeks! Hopefully, I will be able to go with her if Luci can’t. And hopefully, I won’t be in labor that week, eek, lol.
  • Memorial Day weekend, the family will be going to LA to bring Luci’s mom’s remains to its final resting place. Still making plans, etc. on it. Also have to decide on a memorial plaque for her.
  • One of my first cousins is getting married in August!  I don’t really know if I can make it, given I’m taking maternity leave for 12 weeks after I give birth. And I want to go so bad. :( I haven’t seen my beloved relatives in the US in so long, and it’s been a while since we’ve had a family reunion. Here’s praying I can at least just take the weekend off for it. I hope, Lord!
  • Deleted all of my Posterous Spaces now, except for my main one (because it doesn’t have the option to delete it, so I made it password-protected). I’m still very, very sad Posterous is closing. I really liked that concept of that site. It’s way easier to post there than anywhere. Why would you “fix” what’s not broke? :(

And that’s it so far. Will let y’all know what else if I remember any more. :)

Family, Laughter

I’m Walking Heah!

Lucien and the kids were watching a movie, and one of the actors said in a New York accent, "I'm walking heah (here)!" Dani asked what that phrase meant, and Lucien said, "That's what they say in New York. In Texas, it means 'Excuse me.'" Imagine my laughter!

And so, Dani said afterwards when she bumped into Lucien, "I'm walking here, buddy!" Lucien had to explain again that that's what they say in New York, but we are in Texas now, so she has to say "Excuse me!" Hahaha!
Blah, Family, Me, Trips

Lola Basilisa Hortelano Elvas

I can’t sleep. It’s been almost 24 hours since I have learned my last living grandparent had passed away. I literally cried out, “Nooooooo!” after I saw my sister’s status update on her Facebook wall. I was devastated. I was happily planning to go back to the Philippines with my family in January, hoping to surprise Lola on her 96th birthday. It was going to be a memorable experience, given my two daughters have not seen their great grandmother yet. It was supposed to be epic.

Sadly, this will not be so. It feels like days already, yet…has it only been 20 plus hours? A lot has happened since then. I had startled Lucien awake after my outburst and had been a comfort to me since then. I literally broke down in tears. I only stopped so I could call people. I thought about Laverne, our old neighbor in Kinkaid, who had been best friends with my grandmother and fondly called her Lisa. They had exchanged letters over the years, and I had been visiting Laverne every once in a while to catch up with news. So, I decided to call her and let her know what had happened. As soon as I said my name, I knew something was wrong. Laverne didn’t know me. What? She does not recall who I was, nor my mom, my sisters who she has met years before, not even Ted, my grandfather, nor Lisa, my grandmother she hung out with so much. She did not know my grandmother. I was hurt. Extremely. Particularly the way she was indifferent with how I finally said that Lola had passed away. She seemed concerned enough but it wasn’t a concern by a great friend of hers, more like how an acquaintance reacts to someone who passed away. I hung up and sobbed even more. Never mind that she forgot me, or mom, or my sisters, I was more hurt that she would forget Lola like that. I later learned from Mom that Laverne might be suffering from dementia or onset of Alzheirmer’s because of her old age as well, but nevertheless it was heartbreaking.

Later in the afternoon, after exchanging instant messages from family back home, we decided to use Skype. It was comforting at least to talk to family, catching up on things and trying to figure out if or when we will go home. In the meantime, Lucien was trying his best to get me to the Philippines in two days time, and I had been filling out time off request forms for my employer. Lucien came through for me, and was able to get me tickets, but I had to go to Houston to board his ailrine’s international flight. No biggie, and luckily my flight doesn’t leave till the afternoon. My employer was generous enough to give me my requested time and do what I need to do. All through this, I felt like in a daze, totally exhausted yet my mind wouldn’t let me sleep like tonight. I was constantly online, calling this and that, doing a few quick errands and repeat. I even had the strength to cook which kinda comforted me more a bit. I used to remember Lola “forcing” me to learn how to cook. I say forcing because at the time, I wasn’t interested. However, the ever present home economics teacher in her had insisted I learn a thing or two of cooking. And even typing. And sewing. And doing crochet.

When Lucien and the kids got home, we all sat down and talked. I actually didn’t want to because I know I would burst out crying. But we had to explain to Dani and Lauren how Lola, who they were excited to see, is now in heaven. It was a little hard to explain it and Lucien even had a hard time trying not to cry. Later, after dinner, Lucien insisted I go take a nap, as I had not rested since the news. I had fitfully slept for three hours and woke up since I still had some packing to do. After the girls had gone to bed, Lucien and I had some good conversations about Lola. He is so sweet and all I needed for comfort. How blessed I am with this man.

There are so many loving memories of her. I’m just sad that I didn’t get to spend more time with her as we lived so far away. Lola didn’t like it in the States. She felt her age, and she couldn’t go outside and do as she pleased. In the Philippines, she was the queen of the house and can go about and do active things. She felt so alive there.

More memories I remember:

– I used to invite her to go to church with me and she used to scoff at me and refuse to go. When I was already here in the US, I had heard she is so active in church, holding bible studies in her house and had a women’s circle group. What a change! I was so happy for her.
– I loved her “Ahay!” “Meow meow!” remarks I teach them to my kids.
– Lucien had said Lola was the first one to accept him to the family, even before my mom did as she didn’t like him at the start. She said something like, “He is my grandson already!” Lucien was so touched as he had no grandparents anymore. She even gave him a hug to welcome him to the family. He teared up as he said this and I followed suit. He really loved her as his own.
– We went to a reception of some sort and had a big banquet. As they were serving coffee around the tables, the server asked Lola if she wanted some. She said “No, thank you” while nodding her head yes. The server was so confused and gave her coffee anyway. She leaned over to me to ask why she got coffee when she had refused and I told her she was nodding yes. Haha.
– I heard about how Lola went to the bank to withdraw some money. The teller asked, “What denomination?” (pertaining what kinds of bills she needed) Lola answered confidently, “When I was younger, I was a Baptist, but now I go to a Methodist church!” :P

There are more but now my mind has finally admitted its exhaustion. Tomorrow night, we will drive to Houston and begin my journey home and see Lola for the final time.